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lmost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

William Edward Morgan
(828) 855-3212
200 First Avenue NW Suite 531
Hickory, NC
Specialties
General Practice, Litigation, Contracts, Employment, Entertainment
Education
Wake Forest University School of Law,Lambuth University,Lambuth University
State Licensing
North Carolina

Glenn E. Ketner III
(704) 331-7580
626 N. Graham Street, Apt 203
Charlotte, NC
Specialties
Employment, Partnership, Litigation
State Licensing
North Carolina

James H. Hughes
(919) 489-9100
PO BOX 51909
DURHAM, NC
Specialties
Litigation, Personal Injury, Debt Collection, Employment
Education
North Carolina Central University School of Law,East Carolina University
State Licensing
North Carolina

Shannon Sumerell Spainhour
(704) 331-7411
Hearst Tower, 47th Floor, 214 N Tryon Street
Charlotte, NC
Specialties
Employment, Partnership, Litigation
State Licensing
North Carolina

Edward F. Hennessey IV
(704) 377-8375
101 N TRYON ST STE 1900
CHARLOTTE, NC
Specialties
Litigation, Construction, Employment, Environmental
Education
Cornell Law School,Dartmouth College
State Licensing
North Carolina

Justin D. Robertson
(910) 795-2224
2516 INDEPENDENCE BLVD STE 200
WILMINGTON, NC
Specialties
Employment, Workers Compensation
Education
Campbell University, Norman Adrian Wiggins School of Law,University of North Carolina
State Licensing
North Carolina

Meghan Naomi Knight
(919) 863-8757
5420 WADE PARK BLVD STE 300
RALEIGH, NC
Specialties
Business, Litigation, Employment, Education
Education
University of North Carolina School of Law,University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill
State Licensing
North Carolina

Martha R. Thompson
(704) 864-3425
PO BOX 995 401 E FRANKLIN BLVD
GASTONIA, NC
Specialties
Litigation, Insurance, State, Local And Municipal Law, Employment
Education
University of South Carolina School of Law,Furman University
State Licensing
North Carolina

Charles A. Edwards
(336) 721-3795
One West Fourth Street, Suite 1200, Po Drawer 84
Winston-Salem, NC
Specialties
Employment
Education
University of North Carolina
State Licensing
Georgia, North Carolina

Aaron James Longo
(704) 373-8958
100 N. Tryon Street, Suite 2900
Charlotte, NC
Specialties
Employment, Government, Litigation
State Licensing
North Carolina

Are You a Victim of Singlism at Work?

At my last position in Corporate America, I was on the receiving end of a bully executive who was well entrenched with our C.E.O. This duplicitous "mean girl," ironically a movie she always cited, victimized many with her vicious rumor-spreading, mockery and verbal intimidation. With me, her point of attack was almost always aimed at my solo status. A salary increase was denied due to my "stylish wardrobe" which she felt was lavishly excessive, so too was an office of my own and several bonus hikes which my married peers with lesser degrees and profit margins all received.

Bella Depaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored and Still Live Happily Ever After, sees individuals who are targets of discrimination as victims of "singlism." Almost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

So what can those who are being bullied do?

1. Realize it is not your fault: Like most bullies, mine was ridiculing me to destroy my self confidence and to make other employees disrespect me. For a long time I convinced myself that I was being too sensitive. Once I recognized the behavior for what it was, I was able to relinquish all self-blame and stopped questioning my professional conduct (and wardrobe.)

2. Confide in trusted co-worker(s): Keeping quiet about a bully's behavior only makes it worse. After confiding in a few trusted co-workers, it became evident that I was not this mean girl's sole victim. Turned out she was antagonizing many of the unmarried high-achieving women in the office. While we never pursued a formal complaint, we had enough evidence as a collective group to pursue legal redress.

3. Make Sure to Keep a Record: Lucky for me, a friend of mine who is an attorney instructed me to keep detailed notes. I logged everything in an electronic file at work and backed it up on my home computer, including a list of individuals who were witness to those events.

4. Don't retaliate: Sure, there were moments when I wanted to tell her she resembled a troll (you heard it here first) and days where I considered sending a nasty gift to her attention to the office. Despite the strong urge, I refrained from striking back. Walking away with grace and style left my bully more defeated every time.

5. File a formal complaint: In most cases, the only way to stop workplace bullying is through a formal complaint. Wait until you have gathered enough evidence to show that you are being bullied before you make a complaint to your supervisor, boss or human resources person. This will prevent the bully claiming that there has been a misunderstanding. Make your complaint in writing and keep a copy for yourself. Include all the records and other evidence that you have been collecting along with the names of any witnesses.

As for me, this June marks the one year anniversary since I resigned from my role at that company. Today I know for certain that I am living happily ever after and being compensated accordingly, which I know I cannot say about the former, supposedly happily married bully I left behind.

 

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