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lmost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

W. Bradley Betterton-Fike
(303) 450-1665
11080 CIRCLE POINT RD STE 190
WESTMINSTER, CO
Specialties
Litigation, Commercial, Employment, Business
Education
William Mitchell College of Law,University of Colorado - Colorado Springs
State Licensing
Colorado

Daniel T Goodwin
(303) 451-0300
11080 CIRCLE POINT RD STE 190
WESTMINSTER, CO
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Litigation, Personal Injury, Business, Corporate, Employment
Education
Creighton University School of Law,Crichton College
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Colorado

Donald Ray Fitzgerald
(303) 938-6433
2075 55th St
Boulder, CO
Specialties
Employment
Education
Duke Univ SOL,Univ of Oklahoma
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California

Ira E Greschler
(303) 502-5978
3100 ARAPAHOE AVE STE 503
BOULDER, CO
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Business, Employment, Family, Bankruptcy
Education
Washington University School of Law,Case Western Reserve University
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Colorado

Beth Brown Ornstein
(303) 415-2042
4450 Arapahoe Ave Ste 100
Boulder, CO
Specialties
Family, Employment, Mediation
Education
George Washington University National Law Center
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Colorado, DC, Virginia

Robert W. Baker
(303) 469-9836
3233 W 11th Ave Drive
Broomfield, CO
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Lawsuits & Disputes, Business, Oil & Gas, Employment, Elder Law, Probate, Real Estate
State Licensing
Colorado, Texas

Lori Hughes
(303) 450-1665
11080 CIRCLE POINT RD STE 190
WESTMINSTER, CO
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Family, Litigation, Personal Injury, Employment
Education
University of Colorado School of Law,Excelsior College
State Licensing
Colorado

Michael A Ruderman
(303) 939-8998
4450 ARAPAHOE AVE STE 100
BOULDER, CO
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Mediation, Contracts, Employment, Family, Real Estate
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University of Colorado School of Law,Cornell University,New York University
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Colorado

Dipak Purushottam Patel
(303) 440-7500
3100 ARAPAHOE AVE STE 503
BOULDER, CO
Specialties
Employment, Family, Business, Landlord & Tenant
Education
Ohio State University Moritz College of Law,Oxford University,University of Toronto
State Licensing
Colorado

Tomee Crespin
(303) 659-7720
12001 TEJON ST STE 110
WESTMINSTER, CO
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Litigation, Criminal Defense, Personal Injury, Employment, Family
Education
University of Denver College of Law,Metropolitan State College of Denver
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Colorado

Are You a Victim of Singlism at Work?

At my last position in Corporate America, I was on the receiving end of a bully executive who was well entrenched with our C.E.O. This duplicitous "mean girl," ironically a movie she always cited, victimized many with her vicious rumor-spreading, mockery and verbal intimidation. With me, her point of attack was almost always aimed at my solo status. A salary increase was denied due to my "stylish wardrobe" which she felt was lavishly excessive, so too was an office of my own and several bonus hikes which my married peers with lesser degrees and profit margins all received.

Bella Depaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored and Still Live Happily Ever After, sees individuals who are targets of discrimination as victims of "singlism." Almost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

So what can those who are being bullied do?

1. Realize it is not your fault: Like most bullies, mine was ridiculing me to destroy my self confidence and to make other employees disrespect me. For a long time I convinced myself that I was being too sensitive. Once I recognized the behavior for what it was, I was able to relinquish all self-blame and stopped questioning my professional conduct (and wardrobe.)

2. Confide in trusted co-worker(s): Keeping quiet about a bully's behavior only makes it worse. After confiding in a few trusted co-workers, it became evident that I was not this mean girl's sole victim. Turned out she was antagonizing many of the unmarried high-achieving women in the office. While we never pursued a formal complaint, we had enough evidence as a collective group to pursue legal redress.

3. Make Sure to Keep a Record: Lucky for me, a friend of mine who is an attorney instructed me to keep detailed notes. I logged everything in an electronic file at work and backed it up on my home computer, including a list of individuals who were witness to those events.

4. Don't retaliate: Sure, there were moments when I wanted to tell her she resembled a troll (you heard it here first) and days where I considered sending a nasty gift to her attention to the office. Despite the strong urge, I refrained from striking back. Walking away with grace and style left my bully more defeated every time.

5. File a formal complaint: In most cases, the only way to stop workplace bullying is through a formal complaint. Wait until you have gathered enough evidence to show that you are being bullied before you make a complaint to your supervisor, boss or human resources person. This will prevent the bully claiming that there has been a misunderstanding. Make your complaint in writing and keep a copy for yourself. Include all the records and other evidence that you have been collecting along with the names of any witnesses.

As for me, this June marks the one year anniversary since I resigned from my role at that company. Today I know for certain that I am living happily ever after and being compensated accordingly, which I know I cannot say about the former, supposedly happily married bully I left behind.

 

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