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Employment Attorney Derby KS

lmost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

Randall K Rathbun
(316) 262-4000
8301 East 21st Street North, Suite 450
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Litigation, Environmental, Defective & Dangerous Products, Sexual Harassment, Employment
Education
Washburn University School of Law,Kansas State University
State Licensing
Kansas

Jason David Stitt
(316) 609-7900
8301 East 21st Street North, Suite 370
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment, Litigation
Education
University of Texas School of Law,Wichita State University
State Licensing
Kansas

Jay M Rector
(316) 291-9722
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employee Benefits, Employment, Education
Education
University of Iowa College of Law,Iowa State University
State Licensing
Kansas

Eric K Kuhn
(316) 291-9724
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment, Workers Compensation
Education
Washburn University School of Law,Wichita State University
State Licensing
Kansas

Charles Edward Watson II
(316) 291-9589
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment, Litigation, Government
Education
Georgetown University Law Center,University of Kansas
State Licensing
Illinois, Kansas

Trisha A Thelen
(316) 291-9586
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment, Litigation, Defective & Dangerous Products, Construction
Education
Washburn University School of Law,University of South Dakota
State Licensing
Kansas

James M Armstrong
(316) 291-9576
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Litigation, Employment, Appeals
Education
University of Kansas School of Law,University of Kansas,Pennsylvania State University
State Licensing
Kansas

Charles E McClellan
(316) 291-9764
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment
Education
University of Iowa College of Law,University of California
State Licensing
Kansas

Stephen Douglas Mackay
(316) 609-7900
8301 East 21st Street North, Suite 370
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment, Litigation
Education
Washburn University School of Law,Metropolitan State University
State Licensing
Kansas

Sophie Kay Counts
(316) 291-9771
1551 N. Waterfront Parkway Suite 100
Wichita, KS
Specialties
Employment
Education
Tulane University Law School,Vanderbilt University
State Licensing
Kansas

Are You a Victim of Singlism at Work?

At my last position in Corporate America, I was on the receiving end of a bully executive who was well entrenched with our C.E.O. This duplicitous "mean girl," ironically a movie she always cited, victimized many with her vicious rumor-spreading, mockery and verbal intimidation. With me, her point of attack was almost always aimed at my solo status. A salary increase was denied due to my "stylish wardrobe" which she felt was lavishly excessive, so too was an office of my own and several bonus hikes which my married peers with lesser degrees and profit margins all received.

Bella Depaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored and Still Live Happily Ever After, sees individuals who are targets of discrimination as victims of "singlism." Almost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

So what can those who are being bullied do?

1. Realize it is not your fault: Like most bullies, mine was ridiculing me to destroy my self confidence and to make other employees disrespect me. For a long time I convinced myself that I was being too sensitive. Once I recognized the behavior for what it was, I was able to relinquish all self-blame and stopped questioning my professional conduct (and wardrobe.)

2. Confide in trusted co-worker(s): Keeping quiet about a bully's behavior only makes it worse. After confiding in a few trusted co-workers, it became evident that I was not this mean girl's sole victim. Turned out she was antagonizing many of the unmarried high-achieving women in the office. While we never pursued a formal complaint, we had enough evidence as a collective group to pursue legal redress.

3. Make Sure to Keep a Record: Lucky for me, a friend of mine who is an attorney instructed me to keep detailed notes. I logged everything in an electronic file at work and backed it up on my home computer, including a list of individuals who were witness to those events.

4. Don't retaliate: Sure, there were moments when I wanted to tell her she resembled a troll (you heard it here first) and days where I considered sending a nasty gift to her attention to the office. Despite the strong urge, I refrained from striking back. Walking away with grace and style left my bully more defeated every time.

5. File a formal complaint: In most cases, the only way to stop workplace bullying is through a formal complaint. Wait until you have gathered enough evidence to show that you are being bullied before you make a complaint to your supervisor, boss or human resources person. This will prevent the bully claiming that there has been a misunderstanding. Make your complaint in writing and keep a copy for yourself. Include all the records and other evidence that you have been collecting along with the names of any witnesses.

As for me, this June marks the one year anniversary since I resigned from my role at that company. Today I know for certain that I am living happily ever after and being compensated accordingly, which I know I cannot say about the former, supposedly happily married bully I left behind.

 

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