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lmost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

John J. Koselka
1801 W US HIGHWAY 223
ADRIAN, MI
Specialties
Litigation, Defective & Dangerous Products, Commercial, Employment
Education
Notre Dame Law School
State Licensing
Michigan

Michael A. Novara
2000 TOWN CTR 2000 PRUDENTIAL TOWN CTR
SOUTHFIELD, MI
Specialties
Employee Benefits, Employment, Corporate, Business, Real Estate
Education
Michigan State University,Wayne State University
State Licensing
Michigan

Trisha Marie Benson
(313) 465-7404
101 W BIG BEAVER RD
TROY, MI
Specialties
Contracts, Commercial, Employment
Education
Thomas M. Cooley Law School,Grand Valley State University
State Licensing
Michigan

Peter R. Albertins
(734) 769-7677
455 E Eisenhower Pkwy Ste 360
Ann Arbor, MI
Specialties
Criminal Defense, Family, Litigation, Employment
State Licensing
Michigan

Jerome D. Hill
(734) 302-1023
123 N Ashley St Ste 100
Ann Arbor, MI
Specialties
International Law, Employment, Commercial
State Licensing
Michigan

Mark S. Demorest
(248) 723-5500
555 S OLD WOODWARD AVE STE 21U
BIRMINGHAM, MI
Specialties
Business, Litigation, Employment, Real Estate, Land Use & Zoning
Education
University of Michigan Law School,Harvard College
State Licensing
Michigan

Ada Antonia Verloren
600 W LAFAYETTE BLVD
DETROIT, MI
Specialties
Employment
Education
University of Notre Dame London Law Center,University College London
State Licensing
Michigan

Matthew T. Coleman
2395 S HURON PKWY STE 200
ANN ARBOR, MI
Specialties
Employment, Commercial, Insurance, Aviation, Lawsuits & Disputes
Education
Wayne State University Law School
State Licensing
Michigan

Robert J. Muchnick
(313) 465-7498
660 WOODWARD AVE FIRST NATIONAL BLDG
DETROIT, MI
Specialties
Employment
Education
New York Law School,Syracuse University
State Licensing
Michigan

Mark William Jane
(734) 213-3434
350 S Main St Ste 300
Ann Arbor, MI
Specialties
Employee Benefits, Employment, Advertising
Education
University of Michigan,Loyola Univ SOL
State Licensing
California

Are You a Victim of Singlism at Work?

At my last position in Corporate America, I was on the receiving end of a bully executive who was well entrenched with our C.E.O. This duplicitous "mean girl," ironically a movie she always cited, victimized many with her vicious rumor-spreading, mockery and verbal intimidation. With me, her point of attack was almost always aimed at my solo status. A salary increase was denied due to my "stylish wardrobe" which she felt was lavishly excessive, so too was an office of my own and several bonus hikes which my married peers with lesser degrees and profit margins all received.

Bella Depaulo, author of Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored and Still Live Happily Ever After, sees individuals who are targets of discrimination as victims of "singlism." Almost every organization has a corporate bully, but individuals, especially the most accomplished and successful, are increasingly being mistreated by their superiors and peers in the workplace. According to the research we at SingleEdition uncovered, bullies tend to be fueled by envy and resentment, which is typically brought out by high performing, well-liked employees who possess strong values and integrity.

So what can those who are being bullied do?

1. Realize it is not your fault: Like most bullies, mine was ridiculing me to destroy my self confidence and to make other employees disrespect me. For a long time I convinced myself that I was being too sensitive. Once I recognized the behavior for what it was, I was able to relinquish all self-blame and stopped questioning my professional conduct (and wardrobe.)

2. Confide in trusted co-worker(s): Keeping quiet about a bully's behavior only makes it worse. After confiding in a few trusted co-workers, it became evident that I was not this mean girl's sole victim. Turned out she was antagonizing many of the unmarried high-achieving women in the office. While we never pursued a formal complaint, we had enough evidence as a collective group to pursue legal redress.

3. Make Sure to Keep a Record: Lucky for me, a friend of mine who is an attorney instructed me to keep detailed notes. I logged everything in an electronic file at work and backed it up on my home computer, including a list of individuals who were witness to those events.

4. Don't retaliate: Sure, there were moments when I wanted to tell her she resembled a troll (you heard it here first) and days where I considered sending a nasty gift to her attention to the office. Despite the strong urge, I refrained from striking back. Walking away with grace and style left my bully more defeated every time.

5. File a formal complaint: In most cases, the only way to stop workplace bullying is through a formal complaint. Wait until you have gathered enough evidence to show that you are being bullied before you make a complaint to your supervisor, boss or human resources person. This will prevent the bully claiming that there has been a misunderstanding. Make your complaint in writing and keep a copy for yourself. Include all the records and other evidence that you have been collecting along with the names of any witnesses.

As for me, this June marks the one year anniversary since I resigned from my role at that company. Today I know for certain that I am living happily ever after and being compensated accordingly, which I know I cannot say about the former, supposedly happily married bully I left behind.

 

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